Life is a vicious circle that usually consists of several hurdles. However, when it comes to relationships and bonds, a lot is said about them. Remember, you might even meet people who are not in any form of relationship but will cast out suggestions and advice. This is the circle of life that goes on mysteriously. But, if you aren’t married yet, lucky you! Marriage is an institution that requires several stages of commitment.
While a relationship does not require much sustenance, marriage is an entirely different ball game. When you want to take that next step, assess everything. Talk about what it means to you. Think about what is going to happen in the future. You need to be cautious about several things at once. Once you have a rough idea of what needs to be done, you will make a committed decision, whether to part ways or stay in a relationship. However, there might come a time where you feel lost and subject to false commitments. This is when you should consult a professional or an expert.
So, to make things clear, let us talk about certain factors and understand what to consider before tying the knot with your better half.
The wedding cost
The wedding cost is one of the essential factors you might be forgetting. It is no surprise that a wedding function does not come cheap. From basic wedding fees to the entire setup, coupled with an accommodating team and catering services, it all adds to the injury, doesn’t it? The list can go on till you sleep. Moreover, have you forgotten about the wedding suit and dress? Perhaps you should ideally plan on how to spend the amount you saved for years.
Commitment & trust
Did you know that trust and commitment work both ways? These are two vital concepts of a marriage that you can’t avoid at any stage. Once you are married, you are committed to each other in several ways. One needs to ask their partners if they are 100% sure of the decision and comfortable and open to support and care whenever needed. On the contrary, you also need to be aware that you can’t step down either. Suppose if you doubt in your heart. In that case, do not build a relationship on a broken or hollow foundation. Instead, wait for the sky to be precise.
Accepting each other
Loving and adopting someone simply implies that you are accepting their flaws and loving them, warts, and everything. Avoiding or ignoring this may allow you to resent them for their negative traits that can create cracks in the relationship. Remember, if you genuinely love someone, you will look past their imperfections. Nobody is perfect. And, this also includes you.
Forgiveness is yet another component of a healthy relationship. No one is perfect, and nearly everyone around us has hearts filled with bitter regrets. So, if you both have regrets about a few things, clear them, or they will hinder the bond you share in the long run. Such a situation can also be a constant reminder or niggle of what went wrong in your marriage. And, sooner rather than later, you might have to push the elephant out of the room.
Have you ever thought about the true motive for why you want to get married to your partner? Well, this is one of the essential things you need to think about. Remember, marriage is an institution that should be based on adoration and love between two individuals. Anything else and your marriage will not be the same. Ask yourself if your love for your better half is true and worth getting married? If you are unhappy or ready to say ‘I do,’ you should instead leave it and be open to your partner. Well, we are not telling you to break up or stall. We’re just stating that both of you should be on the same page.
The future is something that you cannot predict. However, you can clarify to your partner what you are looking forward to and what you want to do or deliver. So, be open about your futuristic intentions. After all, marriage does not end after your first dance. Do you look forward to raising or even having kids in the first place? Do you wish to travel, change your career, or emigrate? What do you look forward to anyway? You need to clear this with your partner. This can be a challenging experience. But, when you make things clear, you can rest upon a relieved stone.
And, if your partner is ambitious, being open and transparent would only help instead of biting back in the long run. So, what are you thinking? Make a wise choice and thrive together.
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